22: Survival of the Kindest: Gary Crooks – You Don’t Have to be Alone

This week Julian talks to Gary Crooks. Gary’s life in a mining village in the North East of England was turned upside down by the closure of the mines. From living in a community where ‘were always there for one and other they would give anything to one and other’, they were forced into a situation where ‘the rules were take what you want to take and if you don’t go out and get it its not going to come to you’. People were starving and the original sense of togetherness and rebellion from the start of the miner’s strike turned to ‘a sense of rage, but negative rage, against the government, against the police force and eventually against one and other to some extent.’

Gary, like many others across the country in his situation, were forced to turn to crime as food, fuel and money ran out ‘I began to steal food wherever I could get it […] following the bread man round, we were literally starving’. Gary’s first prison sentence was when he was 15.

Throughout his youth, and while he had to steal to survive, he carried with him a strong sense of justice and standing up to bullies and those who were suffering. As he continued to use crime as a way to survive it culminated in his mother being attacked, and Gary’s urge to defend his mother and seek retribution from the attacker saw him being sent back to prison.

During his second stint in prison Gary became a Samaritans listening volunteer, which he initially saw a road to early parole; ‘I thought I was manipulating people but really I can see I was screaming out for change’. Gradually after a coincidental introduction to campaigner Mandy English Gary’s found that his new work helping people back into society from a plethora difficult situations; ‘Whatever void the crime was filling, helping people filled that void by ten thousand’.

After a wrongful arrest in 2013 Gary teamed up with Mandy English and started a couple of not-for-profit organisations. First Point Training and Positive Direction NE are two fantastic organisations each with a different remit, but both with huge positive impacts. Positive Directions NE works within its local community to help people at risk, from supporting those bereaved through suicide, the homeless, connecting elderly people with primary school children, to just making sure people have had their immediate needs, including their social interaction needs, met. First Point Training works particularly with those who have experienced trauma in their past to help them move onwards to where they want to be.

Gary’s life experience, and his mantra of ‘In a world where you can be anything be kind’ shines through everything he does. When he says at the end of his interview that ‘you don’t have to be alone’, hearing it from him is a comfort. An acknowledgement that even when you are, as Gary was ‘filled with fear [&] screaming out for change and another kind of life, but too terrified to actually walk over the bridge and ask someone for help’, when you reach out and there are people there, it makes all the difference.

First point Training: Website Twitter

Positive Direction NE: Website Twitter

Asset Based Community Development Website, Twitter

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Bearpark short film about Gary’s life

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